Headed in the Right Direction
When I posted The Love Challenge there was a nice mix of married, dating, and single individuals that contacted me and expressed that they wanted to participate in The Love Challenge. Many shared that they were excited about the challenge and were willing to make the 30-day commitment. During that time, one of my friends, that we will call AJ, shared that she was looking forward to The Love Challenge and that my post about it was "right on time!" AJ contacted me after The Love Challenge to share her experience. Here's what she disclosed:
"After two babies my relationship has been like a roller coaster. Mostly downhill and we had even been playing with the idea of counseling (I say playing because we haven't gone). To be honest I was almost at the point of walking away. It seemed like my next step if we didn't do something quick! Anyhow I think your love challenge was AMAZING! It gave me a lot to think about with my own actions. I shared a couple of links with my boyfriend and we would discuss topics. Although I couldn't commit to every single challenge, they were door/eye opening challenges. I think the apologizing, how to argue and the love languages were big for us. Since the new year our interaction with each other has turned all the way around. It's peaceful at home and we both actually want to be here. Not to say all of our issues are fixed and I still believe we could both use counseling, but I do feel the challenge helped. So thank you for sharing your challenge with the world."
"It's hard to let the world know your relationship is failing and the shame that comes along with being a 'baby momma' makes me feel like such a failure not to mention all of the judging that comes along with it. We got so much pressure for not getting married 1st I can already hear the 'I told you so'. So yeah any help we could get I was desperate for and we surely got on the right foot with your challenge. I just pray we continue to grow and head in the right direction."
Thank you so much AJ for being so honest and open. Thank you for walking pass judgement and shame and for sharing such raw data. I pray that your candidness to share becomes a vehicle in your relationship for your journey of "growth and being on the right foot." I pray that you and your boyfriend continue to work for your love now so that it becomes your bliss.