What is Love? Is it bliss? Is it work?
What is love to you? Is it part work and part bliss? Or is love all bliss or all work? I can imagine based on our different experiences with love and relationships we can all have very different views and responses to our take on love. This poem was written some years ago when my husband and I were fairly early in our dating. We were passed the honeymoon phase and in the phase of really getting to know one another. The phase of "I really care about you, but I'm not going to be timid about what I say in your presence and I am going to reveal who I really am to you." I call this the work phase. The time in a relationship where we take our mask off! Some relationships don't make it further than this phase. However, unveiling your mask requires trust, acceptance, a non-judgmental attitude, honesty, compromise, faith, and most importantly love. During this time my now husband revealed to me that "as long as the good out weighed the bad" that he was going to keep doing the work to get to the bliss.
(Originally written February 27, 2008)
What is love? Does anyone really know?
We all have our own definitions, interpretations, our expectations
Expecting that this one person meet all of our relational needs
Or at least most of them
We communicate our needs verbal and non
And expect our partner to address them in the long run
We compromise, we negotiate
And expect that he/she may deliver on the correct date
I recently heard that love is part bliss; love is part work
Are they equal?
Or is one more dominant than the other?
I seek the answers
But not by asking my brother or mother
But by being open to something so new
Something that I’m willing to experience
With someone special….like you
I am not perfect
I may not be pure
But love is something that creates
times we both must endure
I am sure
But are you?
There are times that your focus
seems to take a turn
This leaves me to question
What did I do wrong?
Is this the work that leads to the bliss?
The bliss that spends more time giving a kiss for a kiss, an I miss for your Mrs.
In the end I’m left with no specific answers to my questions
I simply realize love is all about the seconds
The seconds we spend making each other happy
Smiling, laughing, and planning for our future
My heart is in it that’s for sure
So I do the work with the bliss in store.
As I stated this poem was written back in 2008. God revealed to my husband and I early on in our relationship that we were to be married to one another. My husband says that he knew when we met that I was to be his wife. God told me that I was to be My husband's wife before I even loved him. Those words told me that I had to take a leap of faith and unveil my mask early; that I could not play the typical dating game with this man. I'm grateful that I listened and walked in faith. Unveiling your mask is challenging, especially when you've been hurt in the past. However, not showing the one you love who you really are is only cheating yourself out of knowing what it's like to have someone love you unconditionally for who you really are. Loving someone's façade may be easy, but loving the real person is the work that leads to the bliss. May you find trust and faith to unveil your mask to the one that really deserves who you really are. I wish you love, peace, joy, and BLISS!